Lean into questions

We’re addicted to the big reveal. The moment when everything clicks. When the consultant presents slide forty-seven, it suddenly all makes sense. However, the breakthrough doesn’t come from finding better answers. It comes from better questions. You...

Masks we wear

You wear one to the grocery store. Another in meetings. A different one with family. Not merely the cloth kind. The behavioral kind. We’ve normalized putting on personas like we choose outfits. Professional you shows up at work—measured, diplomatic, strategic....

The reality gap

You built a story about yourself. Then you started believing it. The metrics you ignore. The feedback you dismiss. The reality you’ve decided doesn’t apply to you. Your team nods along because challenging the narrative feels dangerous. Your advisors tell...

Who coaches the coach

The executive sits across from me, frustrated. Revenue plateaued. Team morale dropped. Market share slipping. “I’ve tried everything,” he insists. Everything except the one thing that matters most: looking in the mirror. We all have blind spots. The...

Mirror test

We can blame external forces when they blindside us. That’s life. But what about when we clearly see what needs attention and still avoid it? When we have the roadmap but refuse to follow it? There’s no consolation prize for this kind of failure. Only a...