When do the adults need to show up?
While we cannot force others to change until they are ready (see the blog, “When Change Happens”), and we must accept that reality, there are situations where, as an adult, you are responsible for making changes to protect and enable others to thrive.
As parents, we guide our children between right and wrong. When they stray into territory they shouldn’t, it’s our responsibility as adults to do what’s necessary and steer them away from harm they might inflict on themselves or others.
The same principle applies at work. As a leader, you are the adult in the room. Where change is necessary, you need to make the decisions that create that change. You can inspire, guide, and support those who work with you, but they likely won’t change unless they genuinely want to. If they resist change that you know is essential for the sustainability and stability of your team or organization, you must make the change, which may sometimes mean changing the person.
Be the adult, especially when it feels hard.
