We think we want help or need it. Yet, what is it we are seeking? Validation, confirmation, or agreement? How does this help us?
Are we not better off with honest upfront feedback that asks, ‘look at what you are doing. Can you not see the pitfalls?’ While they may even be wrong, does a pause not help us in our validation? This is not suggesting that some feedback received, or most, of a negative nature, are from individuals projecting their fears or restrictions. However, genuine, honest feedback is more valuable than support.
If you are unsure about yourself, you may need the support, but how does that help you? All that occurs is you obtain polite confirmation for a flawed idea that you are not committed to. While, if you are confident, the support does not add value, and the criticism will likely help you focus or clarify.
When we ask for support, let’s understand our motivation for it and what response we are seeking?
After all, if we believe in ourselves and the path we are taking, what type of support do we require?
