To win is something instilled in us from an early age. It may be a win in competition with others, or simply us winning for ourselves. Regardless, we want to win. It may be coming first or attaining a goal. Yet, there is one essential win we miss.
What is the real WIN? Determining What’s Important Now?. All too often, when disagreements arise, and we seek to move forward between two parties, we tend to focus on our needs and our win. Yet, that is often not the win.
You may wish for someone to know your perspective and accept it since that is the win for you. However, what is likely more relevant is understanding what is critical at that very moment. It may be allowing the person to be heard. Or it could be acknowledging their perspective and allowing others to offer their thoughts. What we think of as the win is not always such.
When we face debates of differing perspectives, it will never fail us to ask ourselves ‘What’s essential now and focus on that rather than our predetermined notion of a win.
