If you have a dog or a cat, you likely have a clear image of what the pet can or cannot do. For example, one may be that the dog can or cannot be on the bed. You have your reasons, and that is what the rule is.
While you remain in the home, the attentive animal may know the exact limitations and ensures t maintains a low and favorable profile. However, as you leave the house, what happens? Are your wishes adhered to? Possibly yes, and maybe no. Regardless what difference does it make since we are unaware of the status?
In later years, you acquire another pet. Your rule may still apply. Do you find it as rigid as it was before? Are you more relaxed and comfortable that your pet primarily complies with your wishes and is not causing enduring harm?
The same sensibilities apply to the rules we create with our kids, teams, and other relationships. We develop rules, but do we ever question their validity and the energy and mental space we dedicate to ensuring everyone is compliant? Or do we merely find that with time, it is no big deal after all? Possibly we should let sleeping dogs lie.
