When is an answer not the right answer? Common thinking suggests that when someone seeks our advice or guidance we should be thoughtful and provide them with the answers to their questions. This is an appropriate response when the person asking the question requires your decision to proceed.
Other situations for advice arise when an individual needs to find a solution to a problem. Again, the simplest and most time efficient option would be to give the person the insights and direction they seek. Problem solved. Yes, for today. Yet, it is more likely you create a problem in the long run. The person seeking guidance obtains the response they need and in turn we have lost the opportunity to develop, problem solve, and develop.
When we ask questions that compel a person to think differently, question their standard reasoning, and explore alternative possibilities, we provide learning moments for them and you. They grow through problem solving and you do by engaging in debate, Inevitably, you are both simultaneously teaching one another.
