“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers, and the thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” – Edmund Lee
Have you ever noticed that the people you spend time with tend to have a significant impact on you? If you hang out with many high achievers, you’re more likely to achieve great things yourself. And if you hang out with people who are always complaining and making excuses, you’re more likely to do the same.
Our reference groups influence our thinking, beliefs, and behaviors. They set the standards for what we think is possible and provide us with the motivation and support we need to achieve our goals.
Harvard’s insightful study unveils a fascinating truth: Our reference groups predict our success. Imagine joining a circle of high achievers – your performance elevates in response. Likewise, being in a less motivated group may hinder your progress.
The study’s authors, Michael J. Mauboussin and Rob Wiltbank, said, “The people we spend time with are like mirrors that reflect to us our possibilities.” They added, “If we want to change our lives, we need to change our reference groups.”
If you’re looking to achieve great things, it’s essential to surround yourself with high achievers. Find people who are passionate about their goals, constantly learning and growing, and always pushing themselves to improve. These are the people who will inspire you to reach your full potential.
But it’s also essential to know the power of hostile reference groups. If you spend time with people who are always complaining and making excuses, they will drag you down. They’re going to make you believe that you can’t achieve your goals, and they’re going to make it harder for you to succeed.
As you navigate your journey, consider your reference groups. Are they aligned with your aspirations? Do they challenge and inspire you? Seek environments where excellence is the norm and your potential finds wings.
For organizations, have a hard look at the people on your team. You will not have an ‘A’ team if you do not have A players. If you want success, you must change the reference group.
Success isn’t solitary; it’s a group activity. When we find success, be sure to remember the group and celebrate together. You are only as good as your tribe.
