Would it not be brilliant always to get what you want? But if we choose to live in reality, that does not occur regardless of who we are or think we are. It is not unusual to hear leaders say they are displeased because they did not get what they wanted.
The words are flawed. Is the objective to get what you want or to attain a shared wish? Will you get the desired result if they do not share your goal? And is it not best for us to both support a shared goal?
There is a nuance in understanding what is necessary compared to wanting to do something. Knowing and appreciating why we do things is far more digestible than merely being instructed to do something. We will get to the result in both instances, but when we are in support, we will likely arrive there quicker and with a better output.
There are instances when others may be with you but do not fully grasp what you envision or have the skills to execute the desired outcome. If so, that is a teaching moment where you, as a leader, can help them develop and likely gain further alignment.
Getting someone to share your purpose and vision is far more complicated than training and developing them to get there. If you believe you need to get what you want regardless, it may happen this time. Yet like the rope that begins to fray, one never knows when it will snap, but it is always likely it will be when you least expect it and need it most.
