We potentially consider many relationships as the ones that are more valuable to us. The ones with whom we speak the most confide and share our stories, aspirations, and fears. You may consider it a partner, parent, colleague, coach, or friend.
Those may be strong relationships, yet it is not the primary relationship. The person we share the most with and rely on endlessly for guidance and direction is ourselves. We are with our thoughts constantly. We share stories, situations, and feelings with ourselves repeatedly and often incessantly, from early morning to late at night.
While this is our primary relationship, how well do we tend to it? Too often, the rhetoric we share with ourselves is unkind, harsh, highly biased, and destructive. Would we treat others the way we do ourselves? Would we repeatedly share those same negative messages with others as we do with ourselves?
This primary relationship needs attention and care, and some days require nurturing and empathy, while others may be a little firmer. Do we listen to that person before we share the thoughts again? It will serve us well to consider whether what we are saying to ourselves is valid, kind, and helpful.
