We have endless distractions that attract or distract our attention. There are likely countless tasks we should be attending to, plus numerous unread messages, let alone the responses requiring attention share.
When you are with others in social or professional settings, the attention is on the setting, not you or them alone. We all want to feel that we are essential. Is this a good time to be distracted by other activities?
Consider the impression you create by being somewhat disengaged, uninterested, and preoccupied. Be it in person, via remote video, the phone, or chat. The format does not alter the impact.
If you care and choose to engage, a few simple tactics can help you remain focused.
Confirm your presence is required.
Before you even begin, ask yourself if this is where you need to be and if this is necessary. Has someone else got this covered, and why is your helpful presence? Is this a valuable use of your time? If you do not have a role in meetings, likely, you do not need to attend.
Stay on the single task.
If you are in the meeting, it is your priority. If you’re at home and talking with your kids, you are with them. When on video conference, the meeting is of precedence. Turn off all other applications and put your phone away. Not on the table next to you, but in your bag or away from you.
A sheet of paper.
As you interact, listen intently. Note what you believe is most relevant, then ask questions to clarify. There is no better way of being engaged than by asking questions – once the person has finished speaking, of course.
Commit to the here and now.
Your actions will be telling and make an impression. Through attentiveness, show your care. Let others feel this is where you choose to be with them. People remember you for how you make them feel, not what you do for them.
A simple yet sometimes difficult change, and likely to pleasantly surprise you as you realize how much you have missed by not being engaged, how more productive and precise you are, and finally, how unimportant the perpetual distractions are.
